Jim: What’s the password? Fortunately, there’s no password to gain entry here. It’s just a worm hole, a tunnel to the rest of your life. To the right here, and right now. If there are any words to gain entrance to our world – the world of Fishing Without Bait and full-impact mindfulness, they would be honesty, open-mindedness, and a willingness to try. There’s always room here. Always an empty seat. And, if you’re welcome nowhere else, you have an open invitation to join us. Today, as always, I’m joined by my good friend, co-host, and producer of this program – Mr. Mike. Mr. Mike, the title of this podcast is Passwords. So, being a technologically-minded person, what does a password mean to you?
Mike: It’s the gateway to my computer.
Jim: The gateway to your computer. And, what do passwords protect? Why use passwords?
Mike: So that people can’t get into them and get into your stuff.
Jim: Mm-hmm. Get into your stuff. So, there’s a lot of words that float around – and one of them is identity theft. Tell me, Mike, what does identity theft mean to you?
Mike: That means somebody’s going to take your identity – your online persona and portray themselves in that manner.
Jim: And, when we talk about identity theft, what are some of the techniques that people who are involved in identity theft use?
Mike: Stealing your password. Taking over your account, your credit cards, your financial and background.
Jim: Indeed. And, in their case, what identity thieves are interested in is mainly of monetary value. However, the identity thieves that I’m talking about steal happiness, piece of mind, and time – and leave behind sorrow, regret, shame, anxiety, and depression. And, also – Mike, when you talk about joining a secret society – I don’t know whether you were in a fraternity in college. So, what are some of the things that are given to new members that can identify us to other members and allow us to enter in the inner sanctum?
Mike: There are passwords. There are secret handshakes.
Jim: There are secret handshakes, right. Or some secret knowledge that’s only shared among the members. So, keeping in mind that in our world we’re asking people to create themselves rather than find themselves – and to make a reaction rather than wait for one, we’re looking for a password. A passport to our own secret knowledge. And, that knowledge is about our own identity, self-esteem, and self-concept. So, Mike, in the past we’ve often talked about the inner critic – the importance of a name, self-validation, and personal inventory. So, if there was a password that Mike Sorg would have that would unlock himself, what would it be?
Mike: Well, I’m not going to give it away on the podcast.
Jim: I tried to get you. And, what I’m talking about here, Mike, is one of the passwords is identifying and labeling strengths. We could discuss character defects and weaknesses for years and never unlock the vault. We would never open that door to Oz and live in technicolor. Full-impact mindfulness. We would remain in our black and white sterile world. So, by participating in our world and fully impacting in your life, we want to help you open the door to Oz. And, not only open it, Mike, to step through it. So, Mike, I’m starting on a series of talks about developing that password and opening the lock to the door or the vault which is you – which is your authentic, your inner self. So, can we review a previous podcast where we used our magic words? Mike, you remember what that magic word was?
Jim: Abracadabra. When you think of the word abracadabra, what does it conjure up in your mind? Of course, it conjures up magic – in making something appear. And, we remember that repetition builds neural pathways. And ,the way to establish patterns of behavior, such as positive self-validation, Mike, are for having immediate rewards. One of the reasons why alcohol, gambling, and the like become such established patterns of behavior so quickly is because the perceived rewards are immediate and strong. However, some of the methods we use are repetitive, frustrating, and slower to show rewards. And, if you remember from a previous podcast, we often talk about living in a microwave world. Microwaving results. However, using the concept of full-impact mindfulness, we attempt to attach immediate rewards to behavior. Mike, you have a dog, do you not?
Mike: Yes, I do.
Jim: And, when we train a dog and the dog sits, do you just say oh, great, good for you? What do you do?
Mike: You reward him.
Jim: You reward it! You give it a what?
Mike: A treat.
Jim: You give it a treat. So, as we discussed in a previous podcast on resolutions and intentions – on how to make those intentions stick, we ask that you say them out loud. Laugh out loud. Attach a strong emotion to them. So, let’s make some magic. I would like everyone out there to take an inventory, once again, of their talents, strengths, and abilities. However, I would like you to concentrate on one strength. Let’s say that one strength is honesty. Is it wrong to reward yourself for telling the truth? And, remember, we’re discovering and building ourselves. Adding to and reinforcing strengths, talents, and abilities. We’re going to be starting on a series of building blocks. Building blocks of identity, self-esteem, and self-concept. And, the passwords to this inner-self – your authentic self – your true self, are those strengths, talents, and abilities. So, please refer back to previous podcasts on labeling, identifying, and describing. Your assignment until we meet again is to identify a strength and expand on it. Practice that strength in situation at least ten times a day. Find a reward for yourself that can be attached to it. And, then experience it. And, please make it a strong one – one that you will remember. And, remember, our strength for today is honesty. Recite that strength out loud into the air. This is one of your passwords – your passwords to opening that vault to your inner-self. And, the stronger the reward you attach to that, the more immediate that will become a pattern of behavior. We’d love to hear what some of those passwords are. Avoid identity theft – and identity theft is generally the inner critic, the disparaging voice. The judgmental voice. And, remember that voice is not yours. I would like everyone out there to record their own voice and then listen back to it. And, I’d like to hear some of your thoughts on what it’s like to hear your own voice. What we’re attempting to do is help people become more comfortable with the sound of their own voice, more comfortable with their authentic inner-self. It’s that observer behind that dysregulated thinker as we often talk about. That observer is yourself. We want to make friends with that inner critic. We want to calm it. We want to have it help us because it truly is us. It came from somewhere, and it’s inside us. Let’s not force it out. Let’s use it. Let’s use that inner voice and attach rewards. I’d like to hear what some of the rewards that you’re attaching to yourself – for your own good behavior. Remember, there’s consequences to our actions. And, when we have favorable actions, doing the next right thing – we want to reward ourselves. We want to compliment ourselves on that type of behavior – to add to and reinforce it. Until we meet again, please do a kindness for yourself. Do a kindness for another. Forgive yourself. Forgive another. Namaste.