Jim: Ah, welcome. Are you looking for the truth? Are you looking for somebody to tell you the truth? Perhaps you’ve heard of Diogenes who is the person who had the lamp and would go searching throughout the night. And, what he was searching for? He was searching for an honest man. He was searching for an honest person. So, is there honesty in your heart? And, this is what we do here at Fishing Without Bait, involving full-impact mindfulness, is to participate in life. We’re looking to create life. And, one of the things that we often talk about is the three essentials; is honesty, open-mindedness, and a willingness to try. Honesty. Honesty. Honesty. And, of course, that’s true with being with yourself. So, when you’re looking at a friend – when you’re looking at a companion, Mr. Mike, what qualities do you look for?
Mike: I’m looking for trustworthiness. I’m looking for somebody that I have a good vibe with.
Jim: Would you be looking for somebody that the only time when you got together was to do one particular activity? Or just for a good time?
Mike: I think a lot of times we find our friends and companions around similar activities that we’re attracted to.
Jim: When you find like-minded people. However, are the strongest friendships that you formed from people that you have gone through life’s struggles with?
Mike: Oh, absolutely. People that you’ve been through and been able to confide in.
Jim: Would you count as your closest companions people who you’ve either had some suffering in your life that they’ve stood by you? Or we’re standing by a friend who’s suffered, or suffering a common tragedy – a common event together?
Mike: I think all those will bring people together.
Jim: Indeed. Here at Fishing Without Bait and full-impact mindfulness we often involve the art of active listening. And, we also use the deafening sound of silence at times, do we not?
Jim: So, if anyone would like to refer back to some previous podcasts where we talk about the deafening power of silence. And, to practice active listening, it truly shows that you’re involved in a conversation with another human being. There’s a song, a hymn, entitled I Would Be True. And, it’s written by a gentleman by the name of Howard A. Walter. It is in the public domain. It goes like this, Mike, I would be true for there are those who trust me. Would that be reason enough to be true?
Mike: Certainly. That kind of weight that people actually listen to you and take stock in what you say.
Jim: They trust you. Do you have people that trust you, Mike?
Mike: I would hope so.
Jim: I would be pure for there are those who care. I would be strong for there is much to suffer. I would be brave for there is much to dare. And, again, what are we talking about? We’re talking about self-validation. We’re talking about self-concept. If you remember self-concept is facts and information about one’s self. I would be friend of all, the foe, the friendless. Going back to our previous podcast about the Good Samaritan, who is your neighbor? I would be giving and forget the gift. I would be humble for I know my weakness. We often talk on this show about 12-step recovery and ego deflation, do we not?
Jim: Ego deflation. I would look up and laugh and love and lift. This is the true essence of full-impact mindfulness. To look up, to laugh, and love, and lift. Not only lift yourself but to lift others. I would be faithful through each passing moment. I would be constantly in touch with God. Now, keep in mind that God could be any type of connection with the divine, the universe, whatever you choose it. I would be strong to follow where He leads me. These next lines are particularly important to me. Who is so low that I am not his brother? Who is so high that I have no path to him? Who is so poor I may not feel his hunger? Who is so rich I may not pity him? Recently we attended a particular type of rally in support of neighbors. We talked about that, did we not?
Mike: Absolutely. There’s a video on the Facebook page for Fishing Without Bait on that.
Jim: This is Fishing Without Bait. This is going through a life without definitive expectations, trying to live up to unrealistic expectations of yourself or unrealistic expectations of others. So, remember one of the keys to mindfulness is being non-judgmental. Who am I? Who is anyone to judge another human being? Whose standards are we judging them by?
Mike: By our own. By the ones – the rules that we make.
Jim: That we make. We make those rules, do we not? Who is so hurt I may not know his heartache? Who sings for joy my heart may never share? Who in God’s heaven has passed me on my vision? Who to hell’s depths where I may never fare? May none then call on me for understanding? May none then turn to me for help in pain? And, drain alone his bitter cup of sorrow or find he knocks upon my heart in vain. What do those last lines mean to you, Mike?
Mike: So, if we don’t let ourselves reach out and help others, nobody will be there to help us.
Jim: And, when we talk about paying attention on purpose, when we talk about full-impact mindfulness we’ve often talked about what’s important. Mike, do you remember back to the episode where we talked about catching monkeys?
Mike: Oh, yes. The banana in the hole.
Jim: Right. And, if you care to refer back to that podcast, however we’ll do a little brief summary of it – they make a cage with a hole big enough just for the monkey to stick his or her hand in. And, inside the cage there is some type of a desirable doodad item – food or whatever. The monkey will reach into that cage and grasp it and when they grasp it they cannot pull their hand back out of the cage. So, our idea – what we’re trying to get across here, is to identify and label the people, places, things, and situations in your life that are holding you back. We often talk about the importance and benefits of being able to label and describe. We’ve often talked about superpowers, have we not?
Jim: And, I know that both you and I are more comic book aficionados. We’re into that type of genre. What’s more powerful than being able to label and describe and having the ability to make conscious choices? The ability to make conscious choices. And, as this is a broadcast, a product of Namaste Holistic Counseling, one of the things that we do at Namaste – we work on a number of things. However, it’s a holistic-based wellness facility. We work on self-esteem, self-concept, identity formation and the ability to make conscious choices.
Mike: It really is the superpower to create your own reality in life.
Jim: Yes. It’s the greatest power that anyone can have is the power of choice. And, until we’re able to label and describe our environment and our interactions – our thoughts and feelings, then we’re outside looking for that wonderful lovely pet of ours that has gotten away and we’ve never named. So, once again – let’s get back to basics. Remember, we’re always looking for complex answers to our problems. With what we just talked about here; with what we just recited, could you find anything to contradict anything that was just said?
Mike: So, I think when we look at these quotes, if somebody says well, I need to look out for myself. I need to take care of myself. I need to worry about my own things. That really kind of combats those ideas.
Jim: Indeed. So, the idea is – what is important? What gives meaning and purpose to your life? What are you grasping onto that you can’t pull out of that cage? What is important to you? That’s my question to everybody today. And, as we end this podcast, that’s my challenge – to identify and label the things that are truly important to you. To stand back and weigh – weigh the cost versus the benefits of each decision and each thing that you’re grasping for in your life. Not necessarily financial, but mind, body, and spirit. What does it mean to you? And, once again, Mike, we talked about – is there a prize for being the richest person in the cemetery?
Jim: No. So, getting back, let’s find out what’s important. That’s your relationship with you and the relationship with others. And, for those of you who would care to continue on with our podcast, we’re going to talk a little bit about our connection with the All. We’re going to talk a little bit about the meaning of Namaste.