Delusions

Jim:    Ah.  You’re right on time, as usual of course.  As it is always right now.  Welcome to our adventure.  Welcome to Fishing Without Bait and full-impact mindfulness.  There are no entrance exams or required letters of reference, only references for yourself.  There are no tests.  No comparisons with others.  And, the only homework here is to challenge yourself.  If you’re finding life particularly heavy going, feeling loaded down, and if you’re restless, irritable and discontent – perhaps you have the lenses in your glasses reversed and can only see negativity.  You’re living your life on wishes and hopes.  You found a place where synergy and synchronicity are combined and where we actually show you how to make magic.  Abracadabra.  Creating what you speak.  Not necessarily material things.  However, intangibles no currency can purchase.  Let us help you help yourself to fully participate in your life.  Let’s use the power of your mind and its energy to learn to think not from our thoughts but rather than at them and become a butterfly, emerging from the chrysalis.  Think back to Dorothy when she landed in Oz and opened the door to a world of color.  Come with us.  Detach.  Untangle. Identify and describe and live a life without definitive expectations.  Explode into our world of full-impact mindfulness.  Open the door to your authentic self and let the adventure begin.  So, Mr. Mike – have you ever been to a magic show?

Mike:    Absolutely.

Jim:    Have you ever seen a magician saw a person in half?

Mike:    Only on television.

Jim:    Did you call the police?

Mike:    No.  No.  As with pro wrestling, I presume that they’ve taken care of it there.

Jim:    Well, why not?  That person may have just killed somebody.

Mike:    But, they have a smile on their face when it happens.

Jim:    Well, that can happen.  However, we do not do that as we know it’s an illusion.

Mike:    Absolutely.

Jim:    Such as sleight of hand or misdirection.  Isn’t it fun to go to a performance and try to figure out how it works?  How those things happen?

Mike:    Oh, so many times.  Even in my world of watching pro wrestling – as much as you get invested in something you’re always trying to pick it apart and say how do they pull off those amazing feats?

Jim:    Truly amazing.  We love to have that wonder.  So, illusions can be fun.  Except when they’re used to take advantage of others.  However, Mike, at times there can be some blurry lines between fantasy and reality.  Let’s go back into our own time machine, Mike, and refer back to a previous podcast that we did on constructive daydreaming.  Do you recall that?

Mike:    Yes.  It’s kind of guiding your thoughts a bit more.  

Jim:    Sure.  So, what we’re talking about with constructive daydreaming is using the regulated mind that we’ve learned how to have and use our imagination where we take certainties and we turn them into possibilities.  We explore every possible avenue in our creative imagination in order to create a reality. In order to create a goal and a purpose that actually can happen.  And, that’s one of the purposes of constructive daydreaming.  So, with full-impact mindfulness, Mike, we often stress developing that beginner’s mind versus the expert’s mind.  And, for those of you who may not be familiar with it, or may just be coming initiated into our world, the expert’s mind – I often refer to that as a race horse.  A big magnificent animal that can do one thing and can do it very well.  However, Mike, as we’ve often discussed in the past, those thoroughbred horses have something over their eyes, do they not?

Mike:    Absolutely.  Blinders.

Jim:    There are blinders.  And, what happens when a person has blinders on, Mike?

Mike:    They can’t see what’s coming.  They can’t see anything except for that focus right in front of them.

Jim:    So, with a beginner’s mind what we’re talking about is having that open-to-possibilities – the Fishing Without Bait concept, which is not wandering through life aimlessly wishing, hoping, and waiting for something good to occur.  It’s about avoiding having unrealistic expectations about ourselves and/or attempting to live up to the unrealistic expectations of others.  It’s having that open beginner’s mind – open to possibilities.  It’s a topic we refer back to over and over again.  It’s where we’re attempting to help people live their lives with their eyes wide open rather than with their eyes wide shut.  When we’re walking through life with eyes wide shut that means that we have already made a decision.  We already have our own perception, and nothing’s going to change that.  

Mike:    Much like the expert mind, you really closed your mind to other possibilities that could expand and give opportunity to you.

Jim:    That’s correct.  Although we have our eyes wide open, we do have the blinders on.  And, getting back to establishing the boundaries between fantasy and reality – Mike, are you familiar with the term delusion?

Mike:    Absolutely.

Jim:    Have you ever spoken of or referred to someone as delusional?

Mike:    Present company excluded, yeah.  And, it’s usually people that can’t seem to realize what’s happening in front of them.  Whether it be in business or be in their personal life or anything like that.  They’ve created another version of the world that’s around them.

Jim:    Well said.  An illusion can be called being fooled by our senses.  However, on the other hand, delusions are caused by our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs making a fool of us.  Illusions are caused by external influences.  Well, delusions are our own internal creations.  Mike, sometimes our lives are so stressful, filled with anxiety and pain, that we create fantasies.  And, fantasies can be fun, aren’t they?

Mike:    Absolutely.  That’s why we get so much into movies and television.  

Jim:    Sure.  And, video games.  Fantasies are often a defense mechanism or a coping mechanism that one would use to avoid the pain and suffering of reality.  However, at times we find ourselves so immersed in fantasy that it becomes a delusion, or real despite others giving us facts to the contrary.  Referring back to a previous podcast where we asked people to step outside and observe their thoughts rather than think from them.  Check the facts.  Do you remember that, Mike?  Check the facts?

Mike:    Seems to be a lot of fact checking in the internet discussions these days.

Jim:    Indeed.  Such as individuals with body image disorders.  You have the delusion that they are fat when they are often skeletal.

Mike:    They’ve created this whole other world of self-image that unfortunately affects them.

Jim:    What they perceive is their reality, Mike.  People’s perceptions are their reality.  It’s our premise on Fishing Without Bait that there are many beneficial purposes to our philosophy.  And, again, it’s about avoiding having the unrealistic expectations of ourselves.  It’s to avoid establishing those norms.  Repeated and expected patterns of behavior. It’s a topic that we refer back to over and over again as we’re attempting to help people live their life with their eyes wide open rather than wide shut.  It’s our premise on Fishing Without Bait that living a life with full-impact mindfulness we can help deal  with delusions.  It’s our thesis – it’s our premise that delusions become part of your life when you become disconnected from your authentic self.  And, I believe that in our last podcast that we referred to our authentic self.  And, most issues in life can be connected back to the fact that we do become disconnected from our authentic self.  And, our authentic self is at our core.  When we spoke on our last podcast about our Ikigai, about our reason for living – our passion for our life, and referring back we said how do I know I’m alive?  We had that check-in did we not?  We often felt about feeling the tingle – being right here and being right now, the basic premise of our mindfulness philosophy.  Where are you at?  You’re right here.  What time is it?  It’s right now.  Check the facts.  Who is your authentic self?  Step outside of yourself and find out whose voice is that.  Whose voice is that that you’re hearing?  Check the facts.  Be right here.  Be right now.  This is a topic that we’re going to explore much further in our future podcasts.  Becoming reconnected with your authentic self.

Mike:    And, I’d like to kind of put out the challenge – because I know in participating in these with you over these 80+ episodes, Jim, a lot of those things in the daily life just get, you know, kind of mentioned in my head, and kind of pop up – the right here, right now.  And, a lot of those phrases.  And, I would be curious for people out there that do listen to the podcast, that have been listening for a while – to reach out to us.  Tell us which ones do stick?  Which ones do kind of help them in situations that they normally would have gone a different path of their old ways? How much is it helping them reset and improve on things?  

Jim:    And, Mike, we would love to hear from people.  If they find this beneficial in their lives, if they find some of our ideas resonating with themselves, we’d love to have them share that with others – to share that with friends.  And, we’re always open to comments, criticisms.  Any thoughts that anyone has on our podcast, how we can improve it, what we can do, what topics they’d like to see addressed in the future.  So, until then, my challenge for everyone today is to be the creator.  Be the creator of your own life.  And, the way that we create things is to connect with your authentic self.  Which end of the horse are you going to look at today?  The front end?  Or the back end?  It is your choice.  Namaste.