Memories of Choice

Jim:    Ah, what a special moment.  I want this to either last or remember it forever.  Today, as always, I’m joined by my good friend, co-host, and producer of this program – Mr. Mike.  Mr. Mike, we often talk about making memories, creating memories, holding onto memories.  So, when someone wants to record a particular event for posterity, what do they use?

Mike:    A camera.

Jim:    They use a camera.  And, what does a camera do?

Mike:    It captures a moment.

Jim:    It captures a moment into what?

Mike:    Film, digital bits, something to be redisplayed.

Jim:    Right.  It puts it into a 2-dimensional type of purpose.  But, we don’t live in a 2-dimensional world, do we Mike?

Mike:    No.  Absolutely not.

Jim:    We live in a 3-dimensional world.  So, the idea here on Fishing Without Bait is when we’re asking people to fully impact their lives and participate and pay attention on purpose – Mike, how do we keep the moments?  How do we keep those things inside of our head?

Mike:    We try to have those warm memories.  We try to hold onto that.

Jim:    We try to do that.  And, we take photographs with our mind.  Not necessarily of images.  We take photographs of thoughts.  And, we take photographs of feelings.  Because, isn’t it the thought and the feelings that it’s associated with that moment the most important thing?  Not necessarily the image.  What does an image do?  An image invokes and brings back thoughts and feelings.  Think of some photographs that have some special meaning for you, Mike, that bring back some thoughts and feelings.  

Mike:    There is this photo that’s always in my head.  And, it’s me as a baby with a Smurf mask on.  That’s the first thing that came to my head, I’m sorry.

Jim:    And, what type of thoughts and feelings does that bring back to you?

Mike:    Oh, it just brings back – well, one, watching the cartoon.  And, my mom was always, you know, loved it.  You know, it was a fun cartoon that wasn’t violent and everything.  Yeah, and it just kind of brought back to the old house, or trailer actually, that we lived in.  Just some warm memories there.

Jim:    Sure, so those memories – those memories aren’t formed by images.  Those memories, the things that mean something to people are the thoughts and the feelings, are they not?  The emotions.  So, we’ve gone over in the past we’ve talked about the technical aspects, the biological, the connect-the-dots, all these different type of chemical reactions inside that create memories.  However, right now, I don’t think that’s particularly important.  What we’re talking about here on Fishing Without Bait is participating and living in the moment.  And, finding out what’s truly important in a person’s life.  And, of course that involves labeling and identifying people, places, things, situations, and events that mean something to us.  Remember, Mike, what we’ve discussed before often in the past that people live life mundanely every day.  The same thing.  We’ve often talked about human doings versus human beings.  The human doing is the same thing every single day.  The same grind.  Same stuff.  Different day.  Those type of things.  The life of meaningless existence.  Remember our good friend Henry David Thoreau, on Walden’s Pond, when he talks about that most men live lives full of sound and fury signifying nothing.  So, when we talk about full-impact mindfulness we talk about making an impact on people’s lives, leaving something in every single moment that someone can hold onto.  Do you understand, Mike, that you’re not only making memories for yourself, you’re making memories for every single human being in the universe.  

Mike:    When you act and interact with other people you’re making a ripple through lives.

Jim:    We make ripples through lives.  We make ripples throughout the universe, or universes – whatever reality is.  That’s not for us to determine right now.  Because, it really doesn’t matter because we’re right here and it’s right now, are we not?

Mike:    There are plenty of podcasts that tackle that subject.  You can go find them.

Jim:    Indeed.  So, quite often what we talk about on this program, we take the position and the perspective that we are spiritual beings have a human experience.  And, we’re talking about everything being connected.  Oh so hum – I am that.  We often talk about there’s only so many elements in the periodic table so far.  And, they’re made up of protons, neutrons, rolling electrons, subatomic particles to get down to that everything’s put together.  However, it’s all energy.  I have no idea what defines energy or what makes it or where it comes from.  I do know that we’re all made of the same type of energy.  So, we’re all inter-connected.  So, what happens to me happens to you.  So, we’re all inter-connected and we’re in this stream of life and when we make memories, we can make memories for ourselves.  And, Mike, we choose how to make those memories.  When we have conscious choice we choose what to do with our lives.  We choose what type of impact we have on others, do we not?

Mike:    Absolutely.  Your actions are your choice.

Jim:    And, what type of power does that give you?  You have the power to impact lives.  You have the power to impact lives either positively or negatively.  How many memories out there are associated with you, maybe even of even people – random people that you’ve never even thought that you had an impression on?

Mike:    You have no idea.  If you held the door for that one person that was having a bad day how that might have changed their day.

Jim:    How often have you heard situations like that? This random person came and helped me.  If we think back to that particular podcast where – the day I started my recovery.  Do you remember that one?

Mike:    Yes.

Jim:    That particular individual impacted my life in such a profound way that it changed me forever.  He may have – that person may have never even thought about that moment.  Again, how they impacted my life, and impacting my own life how many lives have we impacted, Mike?  By the retelling of that story?  By that message?  By the formulating of my personality?  By the deflation of ego?  That allowed me to participate in people’s lives in a meaningful basis.  Are our actions important? 

Mike:    Absolutely.

Jim:    Should we proceed through life in a mindful manner?

Mike:    Yes, because every reaction that you have counts.

Jim:    Every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.  That’s a law of physics which I’m not going to get into, and I’m not too sure I believe it, either.

Mike:    But, it still applies here.  Because every action that you take and your choices can have a reaction by how it impacts other people and how they react to it.

Jim:    So, let’s just use this for an example.  How often has someone – you’ve seen someone later in the day.  And, perhaps they’re in a bit of an off mood.  They’re just not exactly the way that they always are.  And, they’ve told you one particular snippet in time a person maybe interacted with them maybe rather rudely.  Maybe in a fit of rage – road rage.  Perhaps someone jumped in front of them in line, or made a rude comment, and that stuck to them.

Mike:    Absolutely.  So many times.

Jim:    So, if we consider the world to be made of Velcro, Mike.  If we consider the world to be made of Velcro and our thoughts and our feelings and our actions and our behaviors – we’re throwing these things out there and the universe is like Velcro.  And, it’s sticking to it.  We can’t make it go away, can we? 

Mike:    No.

Jim:    You can say I’m sorry as much as you can, can’t you?  People can forgive.  They never forget situations.  They never forget occurrences, do they?  Words do mean something.  And, we’ve often talked about this, have we not.  That old nursery rhyme sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me.  And, that of course is complete nonsense.  Wounds heal.  Bones mend.  Words are forever.

Mike:    How much of what you do, and I think about this every once in a while – how much of what you do is because of how something you were told growing up?  Like, I remember moments from the first grade that shaped how I decided to make certain choices through the rest of my life.  I don’t know, brushing your teeth or washing your hands, or something like that.  I mean, everything like that will – you choose to hold onto those and let it shape you.

Jim:    That choice thing.  And, here we go back again to our previous podcast, and keep in mind that we keep repeating these things as we want to reinforce these type of lessons to people to create new patterns of behavior.  The concept of neuroplasticity where our minds can be molded, and we use our old friend Abracadabra again.  What I speak, I create.  How often do you consider your words?  Do you consider especially young minds that are impressionable.  Young minds that are modeling behavior of others.  That take the perceptions of others.  Of significant others particularly to form their own self-concept, which is again facts and information you know about yourself.  Have you considered the power that your words and actions have to create memories of other people?  Mike, I deal with memories of other people from the past that they bring that pain from the past into the present with them consistently and consciously.  Our purpose here is not only to Fish Without Bait – a lifetime without definitive expectations.  It’s also to be conscious.  To pay attention on purpose of the impact that we’re having in people’s lives because we’re constantly making memories, not only for ourselves but for others.  And, we talked about the strongest memories being attached to strong emotions.  We’ve often discussed in the past about the luncheon date.  You and I maybe eat lunch every day for the past five years.  Would you have any recollection at all what we would have eaten seven weeks ago?  Where would we have eaten that at?  Not at all.  However, if I would have during that lunch jumped up on the table and started to scream into the sky as loud as I could and thrown a glass of iced tea into your face, do you think you’d remember every moment?

Mike:    Absolutely.  Or, that’s the outside lunch where the pigeon attacked us, or you know.  Or the time that this person came up and slapped you in the face.  You know, that was a time.  

Jim:    So, keep in mind that you have no idea how your action – your thought or action, is going to impact another person.  It could be as significant to them as that moment.  I’m going to ask everyone to walk through their life mindfully.  Understanding that they’re impacting people, and the thought that you’re using magic all the time.  What you’re speaking you’re creating.  Those words that you’re saying to other people, they have an impact.  You’re making that magic in their own lives, and in reverse, you’re also making that magic in your own life.  You’re in turn making your own memories. Isn’t that exciting?  That you can make your own.  Mike, what type of memories do you choose to make?

Mike:    Fun ones.  

Jim:    So, we’re going to continue this line also, and remember we’re always looking to create ourselves.  And, looking to create ourselves kind of lends itself right to the Abracadabra concept, does it not?  What I speak I create. What a wonderful world we live in that we can sit back and create ourselves by our own thoughts and actions.  By our own words.  And, for those of you who would care to look back, we look back and we often look at that podcast what’s in a name?  The power in a name.  What’s your name?  What do I name myself?  You can rename yourself anything you’d like, can’t you?  You don’t need to be named Mike.  Who knows what you’ll be recognized as as we transcend into the next world.  Are you going to be taking those memories with you?  What memories are you going to be leaving behind?  Mike, that’s your legacy.  It’s not the material things that you’ve accumulated in this world. It’s the memories.  It’s the impactfulness that you’ve had on others.  What do people remember about, let’s say like a man like Abraham Lincoln?  Well, they know he was tall.  They know he had a beard.  But, what do they truly remember about him?

Mike:    His words and what he did.

Jim:    His words and his actions.  Now, he happened to have a positive impact on the human race, on the condition on the universe, on everything.  However, there are other particular individuals, people, places, circumstances, and events that probably have another type of memory on other people – another type of impact.  So, and again remember we have that choice.  We have that choice.  And, my challenge out there for everyone today is to be conscious.  To pay attention on purpose to the memories not only that they’re making for themselves, but the memories they’re making for every single being around them.  Every single being.  That’s a conscious choice.  Abracadabra – what you speak you create.  So, be conscious.  Be careful of what you speak.  Be kind to yourself.  Be kind to another.  Impact the world in a positive way.  Make a choice.  Namaste.