Making Your Day

Jim:    Hey, you – make your day.  I’m thinking of a line from Clint Eastwood’s Dirty Harry movies where he said “Make my day.”  Well, for those of you who have been followers of this podcast, this journey of ours into the world of fully impacting your life and others through our concept of full-impact mindfulness, perhaps you may be following or smelling what we were cooking.  However, for those of you who may have inadvertently stumbled, tripped over, or been referred to this podcast, our purpose is to help people help themselves by living a life out loud – to grab onto and participate in every single moment.  And, for those of you who have followed, or those of you who are among the initiated, let us repeat our mantra:  Where are you at?  I am right here.  And, what time is it?  It is right now.  So, let’s be right here and right now and make your day.  In this moment, as always, I’m joined by my good friend, co-host, and producer of this program – Mr. Mike.  Mr. Mike, quite often as the title of this podcast implies, we help people live a life without definitive expectations.  And that, of course, means not placing unrealistic expectations on ourselves or others.  It also prepares people to expect the unexpected, pay attention on purpose – and one of our mottos, carpe diem – seize the day.  So, when I envisioned the title of this podcast as make your day and the importance of structure and organization in one’s life, it may have some people confused as it may seem to be that it flies in the face of Fishing Without Bait.  However, what we’re talking about is not being human doings or having Groundhog Day over and over.  We’re talking about having powerful and focused senses of purpose and goal-driven fulfillment.  I love the line from the website The Tiny Buddha entitled Creating Better Days with Empowering Routines and Loving Rituals.  They stated in their blog that if you want an extraordinary life you must have equally extraordinary routines and rituals.  So, Mike, when you think of a routine, what do you think of?

Mike:    Getting up, brushing your teeth as we talked about on a recent podcast.  Getting up and just doing the same-old-same-old.  

Jim:    Sure.  And, some people view a routine as same-old-same-old, having a stifling life, being bored, being dull, perhaps being righteous.  However, Mike, do you have an endless supply of energy?

Mike:    Definitely not as I’m finding recently.

Jim:    Well, neither do I.  So, as we often talk about what’s important in your life – and for those who are unfamiliar with that concept of ours, perhaps you can refer to a previous podcast or merely sit down, focus, and be right here and right now and ask yourself this question: If everything else were taken away from you – such as health, finances, home – who would be standing with you at the end?  That’s what important.  And, this is what’s talking about using our energy in a manner to move us toward joy and purposefulness.  Mike, we’ve often talked about having a daily routine of waking up and rather than thinking of everything that you have to do, or the things that are wrong in my life, to say what is right in my life, and what am I grateful for?  So, we’ve often spoke of the benefits of gratitude and connection – connection with the universe, connection with the All.  Getting up in the morning, and let’s say having a bit of an attitude of gratitude, would that sound boring or stifling to you?

Mike:    Sounds energetic to me.

Jim:    Indeed.  So, Mike, there’s a missive from Hugh McLaughlin, and he explains prayer as people say prayers not just because or hoping to get an omnipotent deity to intervene directly on our behalf but because it also helps us concentrate our minds on the stuff that actually matters, whether we believe or don’t believe in God or Buddha or the Gray-Bearded Sky Fairy, it is still very good to help us pray to the deepest part of ourselves, of our own lives.  So, Mike, keeping in mind that we’re spiritual beings having a human experience, prayer – which you can think of as merely connection and meditation, looking for the space between thoughts.  When you think of prayer, what do you think of, Mike?

Mike:    I think of putting your head down and talking to somebody that you can’t see.

Jim:    Indeed.  However, prayer doesn’t necessarily mean that we’re invoking any divine spirits or whatever your concept of a higher power may or may not be.  What it means is really to look inside yourself and to gather whatever energy you have – and to the deepest part of your being as Mr. Hugh said.  One of the things that also, I attempt to do myself – and one of the best ways to clear your mind, is to have a daily journal or thought journal.  Something to take the repetitive, ruminating thoughts – particularly in the morning and evening, and write them down on paper.  It helps to be able to actually visualize in concrete terms what these thoughts are and to get them out of your head.  Mike, we often deal with people in this world that have racing thoughts.  And, sometimes my thoughts race, and I have a hunch sometimes yours do also.

Mike:    Oh, absolutely.  And, I’ve looked at journaling.  And, if I can ask a question on this – as a person who has written blogs and articles, one thing that keeps me from journaling is thinking I need to sit there and write several paragraphs about what I think and super analyze.  Is that the case?

Jim:    No.  The idea is to get these thoughts out of your head, get them out on paper.  And, I often suggest to people to avoid the electronic artificial method of writing – make it real and human by actually holding something in your hand and writing your words in your own hand on paper so you can view them.  And, those words are yours.  No one else in the world can imitate perfectly your handwriting.  That is only yours.  And, it is only you.  Handwriting can be distinctive as fingerprints, Mike – as distinctive as your spirit.  We also suggest that people, in their own – I don’t like this word: routine – also to have a time and a schedule for positive affirmations.  Using the I am statements, and visualization of goals and ambitions would be great when we get up in the morning.  There’s an individual by the name of Beau Bennett.  He often speaks of visualization as visualization is daydreaming with a purpose.  So, visualization is essentially paying attention on purpose.  If you remember, Mike, sometime back in one of our podcasts we talked about constructive daydreaming.  So, I might want to refer people back to previous podcasts.  Another suggestion that I would make part of the routine is to make time each day to connect with someone in your life who is a confidante and a life companion.  Mike, are there people in your life who you wonder why you haven’t heard from them in a while?

Mike:    Definitely.  I wonder if I should reach out to them.

Jim:    Well, that brings me to my next point.  Myself also.  However, I realize that the phone lines do work both ways.  And, reaching out to someone every single day helps build connectiveness.  And, when we talked in previous podcasts about connecting the dots and about doing things on purpose – being connected and having individuals in our lives, sociability, adult contacts are incredibly important.  We’ve talked about a number of things, however, also having a review as part of your daily structure is also important.  The tenth step in 12-step recovery says continue to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.  And, Mike, what this actually involves is magic math – or addition by subtraction.  Do you remember magic math?  So, anyone who’s unfamiliar with that can perhaps look back into the archives.  Benjamin Franklin once said your net worth to the world is usually determined by what remains after your bad habits are subtracted from your good ones.  So, Mike, if we don’t do some type of an inventory, some type of a review every day – how do we know what we have?  How do we know what to look at?  How do we know how to have that magic math in our lives?  It sounds like a little does not do a lot.  However, there’s a Tanzanian proverb that says little by little, a little becomes a lot.  And, if you want to look up Tanzanian, that’s a Bantu language from our African friends.  So far from becoming robots, with some people believing having a daily routine is what it is about.  This is about liberation.  This is about being able to channel and focus your energy – to pay attention on purpose and add positivity into your life.  So, not to date this podcast, however, we are in the holiday season where it becomes a commercial tradition to give gifts to people to show how much we care.  And, we are being manipulated through many methods that how much we care about someone is related to the expense of my present.  So, here’s my suggestion to you – and let others know in your life that you appreciate them and that the best thing they could do for you is a gift of their time.  It is more precious than anything I can think of.  Mike, it’s even more precious than printer ink, which may be the most expensive item in the world.  Suggest to your loved ones rather than gifting them material goods, you’re going to donate whatever you were going to spend on them and give it to someone less fortunate.  And, I would suggest that in lieu of you receiving presents from others, and as we have previously suggested that the most valuable currency that you own – or that a person can spend on you is time.  Suggest to them that whatever monetary expenditure they were going to make on you, and donate it to the needy.  And, referring to a lot of previous podcasts, perhaps you might want to refer to some of our previous podcasts where we explain time is currency.  And, as we end this podcast, I suggest you take a few moments and perhaps consider incorporating some of the suggestions we’ve given, and also share it with another.  Keeping in mind that we are spiritual beings having a human experience might help you put material goods in perspective.  And, doing a kindness for yourself and doing a kindness for another by forgiving yourself and by forgiving another it’s an incalculable joy.  And, it’s absolutely free and freeing.  Until we speak again, Namaste.  The divine in me recognizes and honors the divine in you.  

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