Connecting the Dots

Jim:    Greetings.  A quick question.  Do you want to be the richest person in the cemetery?  I heard a quote once that this person was so poor that all they had was money.  So, let’s start this podcast with a quote by Steve Jobs: Remember that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose.  You are already naked and there is no reason not to follow your heart.  Again, I ask you, do you want to be the richest person in the cemetery?  Kind of morbid.  However, where’s the prize in that?  If you’re looking for a prize, if you’re looking for something to gain, truly gain, then listen on and enter our world.  A world of synchronicity making 1+1=3.  Seeing the moonwalking bears.  If you’ve been a caterpillar long enough, and are looking for a chrysalis to enter and come out as a glorious butterfly and impact your life, you’ve entered our dimension.  If you’re interested in chasing white rabbits.  If you’re interested in not believing the word impossible and like Alice and finding a Wonderland of your own, perhaps you’re ready to Fish Without Bait and become that butterfly and participate in your life in full impact mindfulness.  Today, as always, I’m joined by my good friend, co-host, and producer of this program – Mr. Mike.  Mike, when we’re talking about connecting the dots what does that mean to you?

Mike:    To me, it’s a concept – when I’m out networking, I kind of have this concept in my head that everybody knows a bunch of different people and you’re connecting those people to create a better tapestry of people that can kind of complete great things.

Jim:    It’s a common phrase.

Mike:    Yes.

Jim:    A lot of people use.  So, again, another quote by Steve Jobs, and it says you can’t connect the dots looking forward.  You can only connect by looking backwards.  So, you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.  You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, or whatever – because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leads you off the well-worn path.  And, again, what are we talking about, Mike?  We’re talking about avoiding a life on wishes and hopes and waiting for something to happen.  It’s looking for the dots that you already have in your life and being able to observe and describe them.  Mike, do you think it’s morbid to talk about death?

Mike:    It can be a little bit.  It kind of depends on your relationship with death.

Jim:    Most people absolutely avoid the subject, do they not?

Mike:    Certainly.  

Jim:    I’ve really been inspired by reading about Steve Jobs’ life.  And, there’s a couple of things that he lived his life by.  And, one of them was if you leave each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right.  And, ask yourself as he did every morning if today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I’m about to do today?  Ask yourself that question.  Mike, if you asked yourself that question this morning, what would the answer be?

Mike:    Certainly.  I got to work on a lot of fun projects today.

Jim:    And, that was a choice of yours, was it not?

Mike:    Certainly.

Jim:    So, if today were the last day of your life, Mike, would you be able to pass on and have no regrets about what you did today?

Mike:    I did good work today.

Jim:    And, my friends – everyone within the sound of my voice – if the answer is no more often than yes, it’s time to change perspective.  I know I’m using a lot of quotes.  However, there is a purpose.  And, another – and, I promise this will be the last one (at least for this podcast) – remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose.  You are already naked.  There is no reason not to follow your heart.  Mike, were you born with clothes on?

Mike:    Nope.

Jim:    Were you born with a watch or jewelry?

Mike:    Absolutely not.

Jim:    Were you born with a nice fancy car?

Mike:    Nope.

Jim:    Will you go out with a nice fancy car?

Mike:    Probably not at this rate.  

Jim:    Will you be buried with one?  Will you be able to take one into the next dimension?

Mike:    Can I get buried in one?  Does that count?

Jim:    You can.   Will you be able to take one with you wherever your spirit goes, wherever your energy goes?

Mike:    No.  I don’t think there’s ghost cars.

Jim:    So, when we talk about connecting the dots, of course we’re talking about living with our eyes wide open and synergy, synchronicity – is a dynamic where many variables in our life arrive and create a result far greater than the sum of their parts.  Many dots  So, again, although I’m not much one about living in the past, our past is a lens on which our future is seen and our present.  And, again, we do the reverse analysis.  We look at things that have worked and continue to add and reinforce them.  These are the dots.  These are what we connect.  And, often, we have these lenses in our glasses reversed and can only see what did not work – the dark dots.  So, when I talk about connecting the dots, I’m talking about people, places, things and events in your life that have had some meaning to you, and I suggest you concentrate on the significant.  If we look back to the moonwalking bears in a previous episode, this is where full-impact mindfulness and paying attention on purpose come into play.  This is when the universe – the Creator, the Divine, or whatever – puts people, places, things in your life that if you are there to see them, they have some significance.  These are the dots.  Again, what I’m talking about is paying attention on purpose.  So, if we do not have dots to connect, we make them.  Remember, these podcasts are about creating reactions rather than waiting for them.  We are interested in helping you create yourself rather than finding yourself.  Mike, did you ever do an exercise in school, or perhaps later in your life, where someone would ask you to close your eyes, take a marker or colored pencil, and just put a number of dots down randomly on paper and try to make a picture?

Mike:    No.  I haven’t actually.

Jim:    Hmm.  That’s a common thing that sometimes we ask people to do to show them to have a little imagination to pick up something out of a random pattern.  However, a lot of people cheat when they do that, Mike.  They purposely put the dots in a place in a segment where they can draw a picture.  So, I’m talking about connecting the dots in your life and creating new ones.  My challenge out there today is for everyone to examine – open your eyes and perhaps see with other than your eyes.  Dots usually don’t come to you, Mike, you have to go find them.  Remember when we talked about luck in a previous podcast?  That there is no such thing.  That we place ourselves in a position to succeed.  We put ourselves in a position to succeed, and that is creating dots.  And, again, dots don’t come to you – we have to go find them.  Alice didn’t get to Wonderland by sitting at home, did she?  Do you remember how she got there, Mike?

Mike:    She followed the rabbit.

Jim:    She followed the rabbit down the rabbit hole.  Was there any expectations?  Did she know what she was getting into?  

Mike:    A rabbit’s nest perhaps?

Jim:    A rabbit’s nest.  But, however, she ended up in Wonderland.  And, that’s my hope – that we can connect the dots and find your own Wonderland.  So, let’s remember what Jobs said and keep in mind – be conscious of the fact that our time on this earth, or wherever we are, is always right here and right now.  And, it is limited.  We are spiritual beings having a human experience.  Our spirit, our essence lives forever.  And, those are the things that truly matter.  The human experience – we are born to die.  I would like everyone out there to follow Sir Richard Branson.  Are you familiar with Richard Branson?  

Mike:    Yeah.

Jim:    The entrepreneur, the inventor, that started Virgin Airlines.

Mike:    He’s kind of the rockstar entrepreneur.

Jim:    Yes, yes, he is.  Have you ever heard of his mantra A-B-C-D?

Mike:    I don’t think I do.

Jim:    Always be connecting the dots.  And, how does one do that?  By being aware of them.  And, when you don’t have the dots, create them.  Go look for them.  Look for the people, places, things, circumstances and events in your life that you can place in it that have some meaning.  You can do that.  You can have a choice.  I challenge you out there – I challenge everyone out there to create their life today.  Make some dots.  And, I’d like everyone out there to tell us about it.  More than ever, be good to yourself.  Be good to another.  And forgive someone today.  Namaste.  

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